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3 Self Check-In’s to Make 2015 Epic

2015 is nearly here! How fast did this year go? With each passing day it seems that you resurface at dinner time or later after a sea of meetings, carpools, family events, holiday preparations and an occasional crisis (hopefully minor) here or there. It is so easy for a week, month or year go by and wonder where did it go and what did I do that was rejuvenating and fun. The end of another year should be a time to celebrate not a time to collapse on the nearest couch with a sigh of relief.

Life is full of surprises of all kinds and as you navigate all that comes your way (both good and bad), it is easy to forget that you need to take care of yourself, too! In fact, in order to care for others without depleting your reserves, you have to care for yourself first. I know this so well as I am now helping my mom who has not been well for the past month. I need to keep myself strong to be there fully and joyfully for her. I will not do her any good if I am teetering on the brink of exhaustion.

Thankfully, there a few things you can do whenever you have even the briefest moment to make sure you are always treated well and feel like number one.

Review Your Positive Self-Talk

When was the last time you said to yourself “I look good” or “I am doing great?” It is so easy to say it when you are asked the proverbial, “How are you?,” but is your response the same when you are talking to yourself?

If it has been a while since you have acknowledged how amazing you are, there is no time like the present! Take a few moments now to give yourself a pat on the back even if it is simply within your own mind.

Louise Hay, author of ‘You Can Heal Your Life,’ recommends doing ‘mirror work’ to really reap the benefits. Look at yourself in a mirror and see the amazing woman looking back at you. Even if it feels a bit awkward, say something positive to yourself, preferably out loud. It can be as simple as ‘I love you.’ Keep saying it until you feel the energy coursing through you and you begin to get past the initial self-conscious stage.


Do the Hanger Test in Your Closet

For 60 days, every time you hang up an item in your closet put the hanger the opposite way from the others. After the 60 days, review the items that are still facing backwards and ask yourself a few simple questions about each one:

  • Would I wear this garment today if the occasion called for it?
  • Do I feel good in this garment?
  • What does this garment say to me about me?
  • Why am I not wearing it? (don’t have an occasion…can’t complete the outfit…am always too cold/hot in it…it needs repair or tailoring…)

If any of the answers above are in any way negative (especially the second one), give it to Goodwill or, at the very least, pack it away out of sight of your every day closet. Believe it or not, clearing the space within your closet will positively help and affect your own self-image (not to mention give you an excuse to treat yourself).


This tip takes mere seconds to do. It’s a matter of remembering to do it when you are in your closet. To make this easy, set a reminder on your phone or leave a sticky note on your closet door until this becomes second nature.

Make an “I Enjoy List” and Do One At Least Once a Month

Do you love manicures? Do you long to engulf that new Mary Higgins Clark or Jackie Collins? Make a list of the things you enjoy and revel in and place it somewhere where you will see it every day. Then make sure you are doing at least one of them once a month (or more!). Not only will some type of me-time schedule help you unwind, but it will assist you in being the amazing mom, friend, sister, daughter and wife you have always been. Even if it’s just going to the drugstore for those self manicures supplies or getting Audible on your Iphone and listening to a book while the kids play soccer, taking the time out for you will keep you ready (and happy!) for whatever your family needs.

The moral of this story: Treat yourself as well as you treat others. In an airplane safety lecture they always say “Put the mask on yourself before helping others.” Although you are not in any emergency, the lesson in that statement is clear: You need to be cared for completely before you can truly and fully serve those around you!

What is the next treat you are going to give yourself. Right it down now and schedule it in your calendar. Me-time does not have to take a day or even half a day. An hour or even 30 minutes here or there can be so satisfying and rejuvenating. What’s on your list?

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Stop Slouching: 7 Steps to Better Posture

Stand Up Straight! We’ve all heard it (thanks, Mom!) and we’ve all said it to someone at some point. We’re talking, of course, about posture. Continue reading…

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How to Take a Great Selfie

Whether ‘Thelma and Louise’ or Taylor Swift started it, this is a selfie world. While there are some tasteless uses of it such as funeral selfies and such, there is a fashionable and classic way to have fun with this eternal trend.

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How to Ready Your Wardrobe for the Holidays

It’s that time again! The tinsel and holly are showing up in every store from the drugstore to the mall and the radio stations are blasting carols all day long. Thanksgiving is right around the corner followed closely by Hannukah and Christmas. There is no escaping it—the holiday season is in full swing!

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Is Your Wardrobe Really You?

With the new year just around the corner, the word “new” has increasing momentum. The beginning of every year is a new opportunity to start fresh within yourself and in your life so why not get a jumpstart on the new year now.

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How to Create a Cozy Winter Wardrobe Without Wool

If you live in a cold climate you know how much we rely on wool when it comes to staying warm. Coats, hats, sweaters, scarves, gloves, socks, blankets: you name it, it’s made of wool. It is also a less obvious example of animal suffering in the fashion industry, and as a result, it is often overlooked or misunderstood.

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What You Can Learn from Three Top Fashion Icons over 40

Hollywood is definitely youth-obsessed and so it is not surprising that we hear more about young Hollywood actresses like Jennifer Lawrence and Emma Stone than the three super stars below (although Oprah is certainly in a class all her own!). The younger stars are fresh and new, but more seasoned stars have a wealth of knowledge and life experiences to share and they offer wonderful reflections of what women over 40 can be… fashionable and fierce! Continue reading…

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How to Look Great on Any Budget

Believe it or not, money is never the reason you don’t have a wardrobe you love. I know it’s so easy to think, “Oh, if I only had more disposable income I would look as good as so-and-so. She has the money to buy anything she wants!” Continue reading…

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How to go from Yoga to the Real World

Today there is literally not a moment available just to think. Most appointments demand our constant attention with “need-to-be-here’s” and “got-to-be-there’s.” That being said, how do you make sure you find time for me-things like yoga and still feel prepared for the rest of your day? Continue reading…

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Three Tips Joan Rivers Taught Us About Personal Style

While she may have had a sharp tongue with her “What were you thinking?” fashion statements on Fashion Police, Joan Rivers was still a positive style icon in many ways. Aside from being the foundation of such transitions (whether you love them or not) as Kelly Osborne and others, her own style and beliefs have a few nuggets that you may not have seen on the red carpet but which were in her personal and professional beliefs about life, style and self.
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We just got back on Friday from our trip and it was such a good experience for me clothes-wise, thanks to you and the work we did together. Even though I only brought 4 cardigan sweaters, I felt that I had a new outfit every day between the scarves and the jewelry changing everything up. I’ve never received so many compliments – I’m still getting compliments every day on my jewelry! And I just picked up my new glasses today from the optician, and I love them. Thanks for giving me the confidence and the knowledge to make such a significant change in my lifestyle. Sharon Palmer