People treat you completely differently because they are able to perceive YOU in a completely different way when your clothes, not only fit, but fit who you are.
Yes, your body has changed. That doesn’t mean that you (or your desire to make an impact) have.
Dress to impress (yourself!), flattering the figure you have right now, and experience the difference in how you feel and in how others perceive you.
But there are things you’re likely going to have to learn and things you have to unlearn...like:
And so much more. But don’t worry.
Unlearning the not-so-beneficial habits like:
Feeling confident, put together, like you can tackle the world is important. Because how you feel in your clothes affects how you show up in the world and respond to others, as well.
Colors that wash you out or conflict too strongly with your natural coloring create distraction between the you you are and the you you want to be.
When you choose an outfit by default or make do with clothes that don't compliment your body shape or reflect who you are on the inside, you create a dissonance that others perceive as incompetence.
That sounds harsh, doesn’t it?
Think about the people you encounter on a daily basis. What are your unspoken thoughts and emotions about their abilities when you see people who don’t dress in a way that feels put together?
There’s a lack of confidence in their abilities.
Even if you know them and know the work they do.
That same doubt is cast on you when people come into contact with you.
Yet, if you wear clothes that create resonance with who you are, you not only FEEL good, you present yourself in a powerful way and project self-confidence Which, by the way, helps people to take you and what you have to say seriously.
It’s just psychology.
I can hear the frustration now:
One thing at the time...